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[Rant] How hard is it to follow a DNI?

Seriously, that's it. That's the whole post.

This isn't about necessarily about minors, as my rants on my mage page have been about them in the past, but they also need to learn to respect my boundaries.

A concerning amount of H/mest/ckers have tried to add my main page. I have put that media in my DNI for a reason; it makes me uncomfortable, and certain characters legitimately trigger me. I explicitly put my DNI front and center on every single social media platform I'm on in order to avoid an anxiety attack. While my simple DNI on MySpace doesn't state how uncomfortable it makes me feel, I've made it short and sweet for a reason. My carrd goes in depth about my triggers, although I do realize not everyone will find the link, hence the big warning at the top of the screen. People can click on my page, see immediately that I don't enjoy the content, and move on.

Yet, I still get people with fucking H/mest/ck shit as their avatar in my requests.

I can only assume these people see my page and add me immediately upon seeing the CSS. It... angers me to no end. I can understand somewhat while on mobile; the extended box appears below the "add" button. However, there is simply no excuse to avoid it on desktop. Even if they happen to miss it, I explain my triggers in my carrd for a reason.

When somebody blatantly breaks my DNI, I can only assume they've read absolutely nothing on my goddamn page. It feels like a slap in the face. There is a person behind the pretty screen, and I deserve to be respected. I legitimately don't understand the concept of adding profiles left and right without reading them, especially in a day and age where DNIs, carrds, and trigger lists are common.

I hate complaining like this, but it is legitimately for my own safety. I read through every single profile I click on in order to make sure we don't have conflicting interests... including the ones who request to add me. Sure, I can easily avoid pages with H/mest/ck as the avatar, but I have no way to tell if that shit is on their main page. There have been several instances where I've clicked a profile in my requests, only to be bombarded with characters that trigger me.

I don't deserve to be triggered simply because an asshole on the internet cannot stop for five seconds and read my goddamn page.

It is... tiring. So goddamn tiring. I don't even want to post this, considering how stupid I think I sound. I shouldn't... need to be upset over this. I shouldn't need to be aggressive and hostile; it makes me feel guilty and rude. But in this case? I feel I have to be.

To those who stumble upon this blog innocently: I apologize for my brash tone. You do not deserve to be ranted at. But to those who choose to break my DNI and disrespect my triggers? Please, for the love of god, fuck off.

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